Updated: Nov 14, 2022
Candace Selene, Your Favourite Italian Girlfriend, Freestyling at Best Buy
Freestyling– we all know what it is. An “easy” way (for some) to obtain customers by “sitting pretty” at a hotel/ sports bar/ casino/ ect. “Easy” because the client can visibly see that you’re a real person and not a “scammer’ (as they love to claim), you are able to easily screen with their ID in person, it’s spontaneous so they don’t want to lose a chance at some good old fashion fun, bigger audience=more clients, less money spent on ads that may or may not receive a reply, etc. It’s also preferred by many providers as you can talk face-to-face with your potential client and “feel them out” before deciding if you want to take them on as a client.
After doing my due diligence, it seemed like many preferred freestyling as opposed to posting ads because they felt safer when meeting their client first. Quoted by one provider, “after talking to him enough to know that he was a safe and viable client, I’d quickly make my way to the point. I’d simply say: we should hang out some time. He’d inevitably say yes. Then I’d casually mention my rate. He’d usually accept.”
There are definite downsides to freestyling, however. The obvious, is anxiety. In addition, it can be a waste of time, waste of money, and a bust if you’re not careful, along with many other potential dangers.
How I ‘Missed’ My Chance At Best Buy
While innocently sitting at Best Buy with my laptop in one hand and an iced coffee in the other, I felt a presence to my left. I had just checked in to have my laptop repaired as the battery was dead and the entire laptop would now not turn on. I was in a predicament- do I pay for the repairs? Or purchase a brand new laptop? In any case, an elderly man was situated to my left with his PC, and he was looking at me directly in the eyes, smiling, with teeth showing. He seemed too close for comfort, but I was on a chair, so could not easily move away; I hoped that by giving a pleasant nod he would come to his senses and move accordingly. He did not. Instead, he said, “hi beautiful, how long have you been here?” In that moment, I knew it: he wants in my pants. All women know what it’s like to get cat-called, hit-on, and so on. His demeanour said it all. I shrugged it off and proceeded to ask a question of the staff; then put in my ear buds. He didn’t stop there. He stared at me for 3-5 long daunting minutes, then leaned in and said (in a quiet voice), “I hope they don’t take up too much of your precious time, beautiful lady”. Ok, enough is enough. Where do these men get off? Get out of my personal space. And don’t talk to me if I don’t want to be spoken to. Cue ear buds.
Unfortunately, this is not a unique or significant experience. If you’re a woman reading this, you’re probably asking yourself, “why am I reading this?” Or “why is this being published as if it has any significance whatsoever as it happens to me almost daily?”. I’ll tell you why. After reflecting on this, I realised that I could have taken a very different approach. My approach was to tell him off; and to be honest I am proud of myself for this because he needed to be put in his place. But what if I got into character, Candace Selene vibes, and went with it? Would I potentially have a new client? Would he be a big spender? Tip well? Gift me my whole wish list? Or would he be a horrible client and did I do the right thing by sticking to my guts? I guess the story remains unwritten… until next time Best Buy!
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